Some of you may have read my first post and noticed my reference to this amazing book “Don’t be Sad” by Dr aid al-Qarni. It was a book gifted to me by a dear friend when dealing with my own hardship and it definitely brought about some hope and motivation within me. It also allowed me to become more conscience of Allah (SWT) and his greater plan for me, and because of that I now realise some of the challenges I have experienced have been for the best.
For those of you who are still not convinced; below I have placed a whole excerpt from the book, with the hope that you will benefit from the points the author mentions insha’Allah.
Do not be sad- The fundamentals of happiness:
1. Know that if you do not live within the scope of today, your thoughts will be scattered, your affairs will become confused, and your worrying will increase.
2. Forget the past and all that it contained. Being absorbed in things that are gone is sheer lunacy.
3. Do not be preoccupied with the future. Because the future is in the world of the unseen, do not let it bother you until it comes.
4. Do not be shaken by criticism, instead be firm. And know that, in proportion to your worth, the level of people’s criticism rises.
5. Faith in Allah and good deeds: these are the ingredients that make up a good and happy life.
6. Whoever desires peace, tranquillity, and comfort can find it in the remembrance of Allah.
7. You should know with certainty that everything that happens occurs in accordance with divine degree.
8. Do not expect gratitude from anyone.
9. Train yourself to be prepared and ready for the worst eventuality.
10. Perhaps what has happened is in your best interest (though you may not comprehend how that is so).
11. Everything that is decreed for the muslim is best for him.
12. Enumerate the blessings of Allah and be thankful for them.
13. You are better off than many others.
14. Relief comes from one hour to the next.
15. In both times of hardship and ease, one should turn to supplication and prayer.
16. Calamities should strengthen your heart and reshape your outlook in a positive sense.
17. Indeed with each difficulty there is relief.
18. Do not let trifles be the cause of your destruction.
19. Indeed, your lord in Oft-Forgiving.
20. Do not be angry….Do not be angry….Do not be angry.
21. Life is bread, water and shade; so do not be perturbed by a lack of any other material thing.
22. Most evil that is ever supposed to happen never occurs.
23. Look at those who are afflicted and be thankful.
24. When Allah (swt) loves a people he makes them endure trials.
25. You should constantly repeat the supplications that Prophet (PBUH) has taught us to say during times of hardship.
26. Work hard at something that is productive, and cast off idleness.
27. Don’t spread rumours and don’t listen to them. If you hear a rumour inadvertently, then don’t believe it.
28. Your malice and your striving to seek revenge are more harmful to your health than they are to your antagonist.
29. The hardship that befall you atone for your sins.
What do you think? Which idea can you relate to the most? Have you already read the whole book? If so how did it impact your life? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments section.
Al-qarni, A. (2008). Don’t be sad. Riyadh: International Islamic Publishing House.